No matter how
hard I try,
Failure is not fun. It diminishes our sense of self worth. It can make us want to withdraw from the society around us. It just plain hurts.
But... it happens. Not just to some, but to all. Yes, even to the most successful people out there. Fact of the matter is, successful individuals are usually those who learned how to use failure as a stepping stone to success.
"So what!," you say, "That doesn't help me. I'm just a failure with no idea how to succeed." Whether your failures center on your work, your relationships, your spiritual life, your hobbies, your sporting activities, or just life in general, there is hope.
The first step is to be realistic. Everyone cannot be an acclaimed concert pianist. For every CEO, there are thousands of workers who will never sit at his or her desk. And the fact that you can't shoot a 68 on the golf course is not an indication that you are a worthless person. Yes, it's important to have goals, even lofty goals, but at the same time we don't want to make ourselves miserable trying to become something we were never meant to be.
And that's the point we need to focus on. What were you meant to be? What is it that you are ideally suited for in life? Never doubt for a moment that there is a place for you where you can be truly successful. Not necessarily successful in the eyes of everyone around you, and possibly not successful in the way you hoped you would be. The challenge is to find that place that the One who created you intended for you to find. Because when you get there, it won't matter what others think. It won't even matter what you used to think. You will find deep satisfaction in knowing you have found your true place in life.
So how can you get there? Sorry, you can't. At least not by yourself, that is. No, to find that special place that is reserved for you, you will have to let go of your life. You will need to turn it over to the only One who can take you from where you are to where you will be extremely grateful to have arrived.
But, if you're like most people, you won't ever get there. Why? Because few are willing to allow it to happen in their lives. Most insist on maintaining full control of their destinies, and so never find what was planned for them. So sad... What a waste of potential. What a waste of a life.
The choice is yours. You can have failure, mock success (which is just failure in different clothes), or true success. Just know that the only way to have the latter is to first find Him, and then to let Him take you on a thrilling ride to amazing places you never dreamed you'd know.